撰文：香港家庭教育學院總監
狄志遠博士
雖然父母是天職，但不是「天生就識」。之前筆者跟政府高官討論現時家長的困難以及如何有效推展家長教育工作，席間大家都覺得要加強家長教育工作，因為現時的家長愈來愈「怪獸化」，結果是家長壓力大，孩子負擔重。
如果家長想判斷自己是否「怪獸家長」，可從三方面去評估：
第1， 你是否時刻擔心孩子輸在起跑線上，所以要求子女多學習及多操練呢？
第2， 你是否常常擔心孩子做錯事，怕他們面對失敗，所以給予子女多方面的保護呢？
第3， 你是否經常因子女的學業及日常生活而感到壓力，擔心子女事事做不好，以致自己情緒不安呢？
「怪獸家長」有一個問題，就是太著重子女的表現，特別是學業或成績方面。其實，我們有更重要的事情值得關心，就是親子關係了。父母與子女是要互立感情關係，而不是事工關係。在家庭中，我們多談情說愛，而不是默書測驗及考試。擁有良好的親子關係，是促使子女健康成長的基石。
撰文：趙長成醫生
只要一轉季，不論是小朋友還是大人，都容易受到鼻敏感問題困擾。例如小朋友可能因鼻敏感而出現呼吸困難，感到鼻塞而影響睡眠質素，以及整天要抹鼻涕等，
如果情況嚴重更可能出現睡眠窒息症狀。
由於鼻敏感可以因先天和後天因素所形成，雖然因先天性而出現的鼻敏感很難「斷尾」，但如果後天因素能夠控制得宜，那麼小朋友病發的機會便會大為減低。
如何預防後天因素引致的鼻敏感？
由後天因素引致的鼻敏感，主要包括以下因素：
1. 家居的致敏原
2. 室外的致敏原
3. 一些感染性的疾病
如以家居而言，積聚的塵埃愈多，愈容易誘發鼻敏感症狀，所以家長除了要勤於為小朋友清洗床舖外，還要拿走一些毛公仔和玩具，而床單、被舖及枕頭等易於藏塵的東西，則需要用60度左右的熱水清洗，每4天清洗一次就最好。
假如室外的環境較多塵，家長可能需要關上一部分的窗戶，保持空氣流通之餘，同時亦要減少塵埃。此外，減少感染機會也十分重要，因為一旦小朋友在學校裡出現互相交叉感染的情況，任何病毒也可以讓鼻敏感惡化。
除了減少接觸致敏原和感染機會外，我們亦可以在日常生活中預防鼻敏感，例如早睡早起、進行適量的運動和適當飲食，對防治鼻敏感會有很大的幫助。
鼻敏感有機會不再復發嗎？
鼻敏感的治療需視乎病情對小朋友的影響有多大，如果影響屬於輕微，我們只需透過家居護理或控制環境因素就已經足夠。可是如果病情對小朋友影響較嚴重，令他經常感到不適，可能需要口服藥物的治療，有需要的情況下會使用一些噴霧式鼻劑治療，以減少小朋友的不適。
假如所有環境因素受到控制，再加上藥物的治療，在大部分情況下，鼻敏感都可以成功控制，也未必會再次復發。
撰文：新領域潛能發展中心
註冊教育心理學家彭智華
當我們成年後有很多簽訂合約的時候，
雖然現時有很方便的電視新聞，好像不需
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(Video). Growing Up with Positive Companions: The Story of Senmi (Part 2). |
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“Fun with Parent-Child Fun” Roving Exhibition Interview: Building Quality Parent-Child Time Together |
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Parent-child tips – Help your child with their career planning |
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Parent-child password – the process of growing up |
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(Video). Listen to parents and children Share your approach to positive parenting through a short video |
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Parent-child password – guide children to learn |
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(Video). Growing Up Toward the Peer: Mori Mitsu (Part 1). |
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“Fun with Parent-Child Fun” touring exhibition |
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(Film). “Co-create Story Picture Book Adventure” game demonstration short film |
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(Video). “Light Family” Parent Education Animated Series – Grow with you |
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Parent-child password – fight the epidemic with one heart |
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(Video). “Light Family” Parent Education Animated Series – Mom and Dad Are Not Superman Either |
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Parent-child password – fight the epidemic with one heart |
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(Video). “Light Family” Parent Education Animated Series – Mom and Dad Are Not Superman Either |
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Parent-child password – the child’s need to grow |
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“Innocence Shines for the Future” Parent Education Short Film Creation Competition “Innocence Shines for the Future” Parent Education Short Film Creation Competition Promotional Short Film “Innocence Shines for the Future” Parent Education Short Film Creation Contest – Content Revisiting the “Innocence Shines for the Future” |
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Parenting tips – Develop the right values and attitudes |
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(Video). “Light Family” Parent Education Animation Series – Don’t Forget. Initial intention |
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Parent-child password – the nourishment of growth |
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Practice a healthy lifestyle with your children |
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(Video). “Light Family” Parent Education Animated Series – My Method is the Best? |
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Parent-child password – the most important companionship |
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A small tip to support your child’s learning at home |
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(Video). “Light Family” Parent Education Animation Series – Positive Parents, Leading by Example |
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Parent-child password – the speed of growth |
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(Video). Growing with Positive Companions: Du Kaixuan (Film) Growing Forward with Companions: Du Kaixuan (Foot Edition) Growing Up with Positive Companions: Du Kaixuan |
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Parent-child password – study and live |
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Parent-Child Password – New school year |
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Walk with your children to welcome the new school year |
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Parent-child tips – Prepare for a schedule of daily activities for the new school year |
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“Light Family” communication program emoticon sticker pack |
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(Film). Instruct your children on homework tips |
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Parent-child password – Learn to express |
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Home-school cooperation under the epidemic |
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Parent-child password – the key to admitting mistakes |
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Parent Campaign – Goodwill Ambassador “Mommy Light” and “Daddy Light” Family Members Name Competition |
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Parent-child password – forward and expressive |
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Goodwill Ambassador “Mommy Light” and “Daddy Light” for the New Year – Spring / Costume Design Competition (Winners). |
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“Mommy Light”, “Daddy Light” communication program emoji sticker pack (New Year’s Chapter). |
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(Video). The principal shares with you “Tips for Raising Children” |
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“Mommy Light”, “Daddy Light” communication program emoji sticker pack |
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Positive Parent Campaign Goodwill Ambassadors Encourage parents to become positive parents |
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(Film). The event revisited: “Parents Children’s Hearts Are Facing Parents, Mascot Design Big Excitement” Award Ceremony and Exhibition of Award-winning Works |
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Home-school cooperation with children “love at the starting line” |
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(Film). Parents of children’s hearts are looking at the parents mascot design big excitement competition winning works kindergarten group primary school group middle school group open group |
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Parents Childlike Hearts are designing a big excitement to the parent mascot contest winner list |
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Parents are leading by example Children grow up in love |
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(Film). Mascot design online classroom happy palm painting mascot little detective |
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Parents ‘child’ hearts open imagination Let creativity become a positive parent mascot |
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Written by: Chinese doctor Yiu Yee Chiu
As a parent, it can be exhausting to take care of a family and work. In my spare time, I like to watch talk shows and listen to the unique views of celebrities on life and their outlook on life. Once they talked about the busy life of Hong Kong people and how fatigue seems to be an inevitable “by-product”. However, we were told that we are not tired because we are all like that and it is just a normal physiological reaction. So, is this true?
Tiredness is actually a subjective feeling, so only you can understand it. In some cases, it can be seen in behavior, such as reluctance to get up, weakness in speech, lack of normal physical strength, etc. According to a Chinese Medicine Practitioner, fatigue involves the five viscera and six internal organs, mainly the spleen, liver and kidneys, with the spleen being the most important, which falls under the category of “deficiency fatigue”.
Three types of fatigue have different causes
Fatigue can be classified from different perspectives. One way is to classify fatigue into three categories: physical, mental, and psychological. Physical fatigue is the most common and the most easily noticed. After normal work, it is normal to feel tired and can recover after rest. However, if you cannot recover after rest, or if the number and degree of fatigue is too much, this is fatigue, which can also be said to be a “sub-health” state.
Brain fatigue is caused by overuse of the brain. The most basic symptoms are memory loss and lack of concentration. Other symptoms include drowsiness, lack of concentration, auricular fever, and lack of hearing. Mental fatigue is a psychological feeling after excluding physical problems, and may be triggered by lack of sleep or inadequate nutritional supply. If more than one of these manifestations occurs at the same time, it is likely to be characterized as what is known as “fatigue syndrome”.
Fatigue is related to the disorders of the five organs
From the perspective of Chinese medicine, the appearance of fatigue is closely related to the imbalance of the five viscera. Different symptoms may be related to a particular internal organ, for example, lack of qi is mostly related to the lung. Chinese medicine believes that the overall activity of the human body depends on the state of vital energy. The Yuan Qi ” Human nature inborn and nourished later”, means that the Yuan Qi from the parents of the essence, after birth, mainly from the diet of water and grain essence of the supplement and nourishment, while relying on the normal function of the spleen and stomach and with the help of the natural qi (i.e. good air), although they are tired, but there are differences in the form.
People can be divided into the following four main body types:
In any case, the feeling of fatigue is very disturbing. In addition to discomfort, people sometimes wonder if it is a lie. So we must face it head on and find the right way to manage it. Otherwise, the sub-healthy state of fatigue may turn into a real disease, and that would be a problem.
Written by : Registered Dietitian (Australia)
Chung Yong Man
Children should walk more and do more exercise. My good friend May has always wanted to challenge the marathon 10km race. We agreed to train together once a week. Since she seldom exercises, I suggested her to start with a brisk walk first and try running only after she got used to it. After the exercise, we went to the convenience store to buy drinks and May chose sports drinks without saying a word.
” I see that runners bring their own sports drinks and they claim to be good for energy, so I drink them in my spare time, at least it’s better than soda! ” She took the drinks and was ready to pay at the counter.
I said, “Hydration before, during and after exercise is very important, especially during long endurance sports, such as ball games and marathons, where a lot of water and electrolytes will be lost through sweat. It contains water and electrolytes, such as sodium, potassium and magnesium, which can be replenished during exercise. It also contains sugar, which can replenish the sugar consumed during exercise and reduce fatigue. The American College of Sports Medicine also points out that for people who exercise for one hour or more, drinking sports drinks may improve endurance and performance. However, if the exercise is less than one hour, the electrolytes and water consumed in the daily diet are sufficient to replenish the body and there is no need to drink additional sports drinks.
I took away the sports drink from her hand and replaced it with water and continued, “Moreover, 100ml of sports drink contains about 6 grams of sugar, 500ml has 30 grams of sugar, which is equivalent to 6 teaspoons of granulated sugar, similar to the sugar content of a can of soft drink. If you are just walking, which is not an exercise that consumes too many calories, or as a leisure drink, regular consumption is likely to cause fat. You’ll be able to use it next year when you compete in a race!
She turned her attention to the energy drinks next to her and asked expectantly, “Are energy drinks suitable for sports?
I explained, “The main ingredients of energy drinks include taurine, vitamin B complex, caffeine and carbohydrates, etc. They are used for refreshment. But because caffeine has a diuretic effect, it will speed up water loss, which is more likely to cause dehydration, so it is not suitable to drink during exercise. No more searching around, water is your best choice!
Written by : Child Behavioral Emotional Therapist
Ip Wai Lun
Many times, parents get angry because their children don’t follow the rules or challenge some bottom line. For example, if a parent doesn’t want a child to touch something, the parent will just say, “Hey! Don’t touch it!” and “No!” and “Stop”, the child will hear many of these “No! and “No! In fact, this will often make children feel that they have done something wrong, which in turn will undermine their confidence and make them avoid doing things in the future.
As a parent, what can you do to make your child follow the rules without undermining his self-confidence? What kind of talking skills can parents use?
For example, if a child is angry and his face is red, we can use the following “three-step” approach.
Part I: Say How He Feels
“Mommy and Daddy see how angry you are ……”
“Look at your red face. ……”
Parents can try to help their children say how they feel. This is the first and most important step.
Part 2: Setting boundaries
When a child has a temper tantrum and may hit someone, parents should immediately set a line: “Okay, we can’t hurt others. Help him to set a compliance line.
Part 3: Arranging a platform for diversion
If the child has already hit someone, the parent should arrange a platform for the child to channel the anger.
For example, the parent can say, “Oh! I see you are so angry that your face is red and you want to hit someone! Why don’t you show Daddy how angry you are? “Why don’t you hit this shark doll?”
Maybe the child will say, “Yes, okay! and then hit the shark doll. At this point, the parent should tell the child, “Oh, Daddy is really angry to see you.
By allowing the child to express his or her emotions, the child will understand that when he or she has negative emotions, they won’t be accepted by the parents.
If parents use the above three steps, not only will they accept their children’s negative emotions, but they will also not condone their misbehavior, and most importantly, children will learn to follow the rules.
Author: Activate the principal of English Primary School Luo Xujun
The application for Primary 1 admission has already begun, how can parents choose the right school for their children? How do you know what a school is all about? Children’s characteristics are important, but the plasticity of children is very large, relatively speaking, parents’ expectations for education and whether the school can meet parents’ expectations are even more important. Parents can learn about a school in the following ways:
1. School website
Many parents will learn about the school through the school website, but the design direction of different school websites is different, and it is not easy to compare with each other. However, the website can generally provide some basic information, which is a convenient way to understand the school.
2. Primary School Overview
The Primary School Overview is also a way to obtain basic information about schools. However, contrary to the website, because the edition of “Primary School Overview” has restrictions on the title and word count, it seems easier to compare, but it is difficult to see the characteristics of the school, so “Primary School Overview” can only be regarded as providing an additional convenient way for parents to know the school.
3. Learn through word of mouth
Collecting different people’s evaluations of the school, that is, the general reputation of the school, can be an important way to understand the school, and in fact, it is also an important factor for most parents to consider. However, through “word of mouth” to understand the school, parents have two points to pay attention to. First, everyone’s observations may be incomplete, and the school will change, and parents should listen to different people’s opinions. Second, everyone has different expectations for education, and others think that the advantages are important, but you do not necessarily think that they are important, and you may even think that they are shortcomings.
4. Visit the school
What about visiting schools? Some people doubt that visiting the school can see the real face, but I think it is still important to contact in person. Each school has a message that she expects the public to know, that is, the elements that the school values, which can be learned during the visit. The school wants everyone to know whether her students are disciplined or confident or confident. Does she emphasize high academic standards, or is it a variety of activities? Parents can make comparisons from this.
Written By: Founder of Kat-Spirit Nutrition Centre
Senior Nutritionist Ng Yiu Fun
The school year has started, did the children have breakfast before school? Many children have different reasons for not eating breakfast, but parents should pay attention to the fact that breakfast has a great impact on the growth of children!
Earlier, a study by the Chinese University of Hong Kong showed that breakfast has a significant impact on the academic performance of students. Students who have the habit of eating breakfast every day, test scores are more than 5 points higher than the average student who did not eat breakfast. Why does breakfast make us smarter?
Because the brain needs blood sugar for nutrient absorption and consumption, but when our body sleeps all night without food, the body has consumed our blood sugar for the whole day. Therefore, we need to eat breakfast to replenish blood sugar, so that our response becomes faster. Parents may ask, “What is the best breakfast for children?
What breakfast can “wake up our brain and morning”?
1) Starchy food
This includes porridge, flour, noodles, rice, bread and biscuits, so we can eat a sandwich, a bowl of macaroni or rice flour as well; even drinking milk, eating oatmeal or corn flakes is fine
2) Protein supplement
Since protein itself can make us react faster, for example, shredded chicken is rich in protein, so for breakfast, you can choose a bowl of rice noodles in shredded chicken soup or macaroni in shredded chicken soup, or have an egg sandwich with cheese, which can also help us replenish our needs for the day. So all parents remember to remind children to eat breakfast before going to school!
Written By: Ms. Lui Shuk Jing, Family Dynamics Personal, Marriage and Family Therapist
There is a Chinese saying “the age of three determines 80” and the West has another saying “The future is now”.It is clear that both Chinese and foreign parents have relevant parenting experience and believe that the early years are the golden age for shaping the healthy growth of their children. Many parents understand that they are the key influencers of their children’s growth, and that their children will learn by example, so they have to set an example and start to discipline them at a young age.
I believe that parents focus on disciplining their children’s behavior, but recent studies in medicine, science, psychology, and early childhood development all point to the interaction and relationship between parents and children as the foundation for their children’s development.
“Attachment Theory research clearly shows that as early as 0-18 months of age, a parent or primary caregiver forms a lifelong relationship pattern with the child that will be passed on for the rest of the child’s life. Once a secure attachment relationship is established, it is like a secure base that can be effective in dealing with future turbulent situations and in building the ability to have a successful family relationship.
Conversely, once an insecure relationship pattern is established, it can have a negative impact on an infant’s future growth, emotional processing, and family relationships.
The key to establishing a secure attachment pattern is for parents to establish a secure attachment when their child is 0-18 months old. Parents can build secure attachments based on the following suggestions
Insecure Attachment
I have handled many cases in which the children are smart and well-behaved and have excellent academic performance, but they are very disturbed emotionally. Their parents think they are leading by example, loving their children and working hard, but they do not understand how their children can have emotional problems. If they look closely at the “attachment pattern” between themselves and their children to see if they are always close to their children, if they are emotionally involved, and if they can meet their children’s emotional needs, it will be easy to find the core of the problem and help parents rebuild a secure attachment relationship with their children so that they can rely on them and build a foundation for growth.
